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it so often happens that the things that bother us most about other people are the things that we do or recognize in ourselves.

if you can identify these things and get to the root of them two things can happen:
1. between you and yourself: you work out your own shit
and
2. between you & the other person: if you've really processed it, it won't have that much resonance and it bothers you less or if you've just simply acknowledged it, you can find compassion for the other which is a powerful thing.